Why Do Men Want to Sleep with Me!?

This is a rant post. It’s a continuation of my blog that I wrote about regarding online dating and how I categorised the men that I had encountered, more specifically the ‘Sex Maniacs’.

I feel this breed of man must have its own post because it happened for the fourth time in a row from an online site I’m registered too (and one where I’m waiting for my subscription to end, more headache than its worth!).

The latest encounter lasted 12 hours…just about. Essentially we knew we wanted different things, I want the old fashioned ‘get married have a family’ he basically wanted a quick shag.  This may sound unfair to him, it probably is, but from my point of view it’s rude and disrespectful to scoff at my views and think that I’m a prude.

His response to a date was he would book a hotel room with a double bed….I pretended to not know what he was getting at and he soon disappeared. I think the thing that scares this particular type of man is that I know who I am as a person and what I ultimately want in life in regards to a relationship.

The thing is I’m not willing to sleep around. They seem to have a hard time understanding this concept.

Call my thing old fashioned and that I need to move with the times but this is so embedded into who I am as a person that just as I don’t judge others for how they want to live and their lifestyle choices, I don’t appreciate being judged for mine.

Being particular about who I share my bed with has nothing to do with you. If you want to get that far…get to know me as a person first and not just to add another notch to your bedpost.

Where did all the men go that respected women? Do they even exist?

They must do, as I know plenty of married couples where the men are decent humans being.

It boils down to the one common denominator in this whole scenario, which is me….and I really have NO idea how they get to the point where they think I’m an easy lay?!

All this does is make me very weary in talking to ALL guys, even the nice ones because I’m going to always assume they have an agenda.

I’m not a man-hater I just wish some of them treated women with more respect. What happened to getting to know someone and falling in love? I’m sorry I grew up on a lot of romantic comedies and Bollywood but it made a HUGE impact in what I look for.

So, rant over. This was cathartic…a little.

NB…Online dating is hard enough to navigate through, please don’t make it harder by being so judgemental to a complete stranger.

Have a good day xo


  1. Andy Culham
    January 8, 2018 / 11:00 pm

    Hi Mani
    I just read your article your actually a really genuine person I think more people should have the same moral fibre you have
    There’s nothing wrong with wanting to settle down in a serious relationship doesn’t make you anything other than a perfect person
    Describe beautiful it’s not just the looks that seams to drive sociaty today it’s actual people like you who are beautiful and kind from within
    Be proud of who you are
    Andy 🙏
    lol on your twitter page I guess I must like emojis too 😆

    • manihayre
      January 9, 2018 / 7:55 am

      Thanks for reading Andy and your kind words! And yes emojis for life! Haha

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