I don’t know where or when the term ‘bodyshaming’ came from but the actual act of it has been around for as long as I can remember.
There are plenty of posts, news stories, magazine articles of celebrities who have been ‘bodyshamed’ because of how they’ve looked at a certain event or interview. Well it’s not just celebrities. Women and young girls have to suffer because of … well … other women (and probably some boys). And that sucks.
It annoys me that other women post about how ‘men like women with curves’ etc. regardless of your shape, embrace it, because why shouldn’t you, but not on the back of putting someone else down, who looks different to you. If girls are ‘curvy’ then enjoy your curves, if girls are ‘athletic’ enjoy that!
Especially those in the pubic eye should have some responsibility as you are role models, and promoting a healthy lifestyle should be a bigger priority regardless of your shape and probably a better use of your time and influence.
Personally, I’ve always hated the term ‘skinny’ it was used as a word to hurt me as a teenager. I was pretty flat looking all over, I didn’t develop any boobs until late on (even now in my mid-30’s I’m only a B cup), but having no figure as a teenager next to girls who did have wasn’t nice. Comments from both boys and girls calling me plank were hurtful.
One of my mum’s friends to this day comments on my weight every time she sees me, tells me that I’m too ‘skinny’ and this has been going on 20 years, so now I just ignore her.
But the comments still sting. If I was to call someone ‘fat’ people would be outraged so why do you think you have the right to comment on my body shape?
So many other women, friends and family, have said that those who call me ‘skinny’ are saying it out of spite because they are jealous, whether or not that’s the case is irrelevant. I don’t ever comment on how they look, a) because I can’t I’m not wired that way & b) because how they look doesn’t reflect who they are as a person.
However, around 3 years ago I hired a personal trainer, for various reasons, I wanted to get fit, stronger and tone up. Heart disease runs in my family, my dad had a heart attack at 50 so I wanted to make sure I was fitter and healthier now, so hopefully I could out run the condition if I ever have it.
So even though I’ve toned up and put on weight my mum’s friend still says I’m too skinny. Some people you just can’t win with.
I found the picture below, there are just so many things wrong with it. It’s not a healthy image to have around for girls and women of any age to look at this and think of themselves as ‘imperfect’ because the below image dictates what ‘the perfect body’ should look like. Newsflash, nobody on earth is perfect. So celebrate your own imperfections, I do mine!
NB…Just know that what you say to young girls & boys makes an impact. It’s been hinted at me in the past that I don’t eat or must have an eating disorder, whilst thankfully I don’t, others might and what you say won’t be helping them any. This is my body, I don’t put on weight easily but it doesn’t mean I have an eating disorder, call it genetics or having a fast metabolism, I don’t care, but think before you call me ‘skinny’ or tell me I don’t eat enough, because it’s rude and you don’t know the impact your words have had on my life.
Have a good day xo