If you’ve been following my blogs and social media, or even know me in real life you know that I’m a little bit tall.
5 ft 11 inches or roughly 183 cm depending on whatever metric system you use to understand height.
Now the technical part is over with I wanted to write about the dumbass things people have said to me since I had a growth spurt that propelled me to nearly 6ft.
Even living in a city where I thought my height would ‘blend in’ it doesn’t and people comment on it all the time, mostly good, the rest just a little monotonous.
Don’t get me wrong I’ve had many lovely things said and whenever I’ve been aboard, especially the US it’s always been a conversation starter, and I’ve had lovely chats with folks from different parts of the world. So there have been a lot of positives.
I just wanted to highlight some of the not so nice things, or the monotonous stuff people have said to me because I’m tall, that somehow if I said the same to a shorter person would not go down so well.
Let’s being shall we…
- Indian Aunties
Ahhh…who doesn’t love the opinion of a woman that isn’t related to you?
A little backstory, my mum is one of the strongest women I know. Growing up I never saw her cry, except this one time when one of her friends, I think I was late teens, mentioned my height and that it would be a struggle for me, her eldest daughter, to find someone and marry.
My parents, both being tall, I guess this had been an insecurity of my mum’s from when I was a child, which is why it bothered her.
I mean, obviously, a girl who isn’t married at 23 is not going to have any sort of life…isn’t that right aunty?
Keep your opinions to yourself please. Thank you.
Growing up I stooped A LOT. I even got a beating because I didn’t stand straight. I was trying to hide my tallness. After I left my marriage I must have stopped caring as I started standing straighter. Exercise and Pilates resulted in good posture, finally, and did the trick in my late 20s. Now I would just get beatings for other reasons ha ha!
But as my confidence grew my height insecurity shrank.
I became more adventurous I started wearing heels to work, on nights out and even Indian functions.
At some point, I realised how pretty shoes were and I couldn’t just restrict myself to flats. I also realised even in flats I was still going to be taller than everyone so an extra couple of inches wouldn’t matter (right boys? 😉 )
BUT to this day when I wear heels to work I get comments saying ‘you’re so tall you don’t need them’ no love I don’t NEED them, nobody needs heels, I WANT them. I’m going to be tall regardless, so let me enjoy my shoes eh.
- You should be a model
It’s sweet that people say this…I hope they’re also alluding to some natural beauty that I don’t see and not just that I’m a tall girl who is slender and apparently that’s all it takes to be a model.
To be fair at nearly 36 this is never going to be a career path and at 19 when it MAY have been an option I had a very strict Punjabi mother….so a life in sales awaited.
- Must be so hard to date
Yes, but not because of my height, dumbass.
- You’re so tall
Why yes I am well done for noticing. I have no comment on this. I mean maybe I should go around telling people how short they are and see if that’s a conversation starter.
I understand people mean well and as a Punjabi girl it’s not the norm to be so tall. But you’d think with the world getting smaller (no pun intended) and more and more accessible in terms of the people we interact with, a tall brown girl might no longer be a shock factor.
NB…Shock horror I’m tall so is my family – next time just say oh nice shoes eh?
Have a good day xo